VSCode > Extensions > highlight-matching-tag > install > Done!
To style it
File > preferences > Settings > User settings > text editor > code actions on save > Edit in settings.json
// sample styling code
"highlight-matching-tag.style": {
"backgroundColor": "rgba(63, 191, 63, 0.20)"
},
"editor.occurrencesHighlight": false
Learn more about styling options here